13 minutes read
There is a fantasy that haunts us—the fantasy of the unified self.
We imagine that somewhere beneath all our contradictions, all our competing desires and impulses, there exists a coherent “I” pulling the strings.
Author: mila.petkova
The Tyranny of Achievement: Why We’re Exhausted From Being Our Own Slavedrivers
12 min read
We are our own worst masters.
This is the uncomfortable truth that haunts our age of endless optimization, relentless self-improvement, and the incessant pursuit of productivity. Continue reading
Faith For Atheists
8 min read
To walk through life as an atheist is to carry the burden of both freedom and fragility. There is no script, no grand design to follow—only the choice to create purpose and hold onto what is beautiful, even as the inevitability of loss whispers in the background.
How to Dream Big?
7-minute read
Do you have dreams? Little dreams big dreams, fantasies, plans, hopes, passions?
People often assume that some dreams are difficult (or impossible) to fulfill because they lack something – talent, ambition, or financial means. But what are the real obstacles? Continue reading
Am I Wasting My Time?
8 min read
The era of instant gratification brought us a new plague – the illusion that one can make choices without experiencing life.
Listening to the people who come to my practice, I realize that there is a great fear of time-wasting. Continue reading
“Being Good In Bed” – What Does It Even Mean?!?
6 min read
My male friends and counseling clients often ask me what women want during sex. Well, telling just one thing is like claiming that there is one sexual position that is simply the best. It’s not that simple!
But then again, some men are just better lovers. What makes them good? Well, here are a few points that could shine light on this topic:
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Why Are We More Successful When We Are Not Perfect?
3 minute read
Let’s face the truth: there are no perfect people, and even if there were any, we would hate their guts. Do you feel irritated when someone constantly tries to seem perfect?
Perfectionism related to appearance, knowledge, abilities, etc. is often off-putting. Nevertheless, envy is not the reason why we find it alienating. Continue reading
How Much Positive Thinking Is Enough?
7 minute read
60% of the time! That’s all! You can stop reading now. Go ahead with your life and try to think positively 60% of the time.
Now, seriously. So far I have run into way too many people who claim that the most important path toward happiness and fulfillment is casting out negative thoughts as if they were a flock of crows in your garden.
When Is It Actually a Good Thing to Lose All Your Hope?
5 minute read
I often get the impression that there are things not worth fighting for. It could be a dead-end job, a relationship, craving for the attention of people who just don’t bring value to your life. But can one just let it go!?
Blogs (not unlike this one) advise you to fight for your dreams, but at the same time, one can be objective and reevaluate one’s dreams carefully. Are they really the best for the person in question? Continue reading