“Being Good In Bed” – What Does It Even Mean?!?


My male friends often ask me what women want during sex. Well, telling just one thing is like claiming that there is one sexual position which is simply the best. There isn’t!

But then again, why there are some men for whom many different women claim that they are excellent lovers? What makes them so good?


Well, here are a few points that could put a light on this topic:


No matter if they admit it or not, most of the good lovers actually pay a lot of attention to the methods and practices for giving their girl maximum pleasure. Sometimes they read tons of literature; sometimes they consult Google or watch educational programs on this topic. Sometimes they just ask their female friends and colleagues, what their boyfriend did last night to make them look so happy before the first coffee early in the morning. And sometimes even a quick visit of the local sex-shop and a brief conversation with the sales lady could reveal to them an unknown detail about the female anatomy. For instance, you could ask which sex toy is most commonly used by the women who visit the shop and why. The answer to this question could give you a few ideas how to make your girlfriend scream.


All women are different and each one likes different set of things. When you are in a long term relationship, most of your girlfriend’s desires are probably not a secret for you anymore. But even on a first date you could grasp some important details that could be really useful. You should pay close attention to the conversation; for sure she will reveal some spicy details about her sexual preferences. If she likes you a lot she will probably open such topic at some point, be prepared! In the conversation she will reveal if she is a romantic person, party type or a real adrenalin addict. This will help you on the next step.


The first kiss is important but it is not the final sentence. In my opinion, being a good kisser is a natural talent – you either have it or not. Just relax and be yourself! Kisses will be a very exciting part of the flirt, especially if she is already very into you. But it is not all about getting excited. Making out will give you essential information about what she likes in bed too. Pay attention, does she tremble when you touch her gently? Does she get crazy when you grab her strongly? Does she prefer to take the initiative? You will be much better if you already know what she likes. And you will!

One thing is sure, every women wants to be the only One. Make her feel that you are there to make all her wishes and desires come true. The best lovers show a genuine desire for intimacy and convert sex in a unforgettable experience. Forger the uncertainties, just relax and make it happen.