You Don’t Have To Be A Hero All The Time

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Have you ever wondered why some people maintain relationships with friends or lovers who are just incapable of taking care of themselves. Everyone is conscious that this relationship has no future because such people drag you down, nevertheless there are some people who decide to sacrifice themselves for the others, even though they don’t deserve it.

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These people are not crazy, but they are very likely to have a “messiah complex”. This is a popular terminology, I actually haven’t studied such complex in the scientific literature and it is not listed as a mental disease in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM),  not because it doesn’t exist but because it is just a superficial revelation of other psychological issues, which remain unconscious. Being in an inadequate relationship when one of the partners constantly takes advantage of the other can be caused by multiple reasons.

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Plan B – How Strategic Thinking Shapes Your Success

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Have you ever wondered why faith is nicer to some people and constantly neglects others. Maybe even your personal plans sometimes fail and it makes you think that life isn’t fair. What’s really the problem with faith?

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There is no problem!

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When It Is Always the Ex’s Fault…

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Have you ever met a charming person, perfect in any other aspect but the way he/she talks about the exes? I really don’t want to be the one who is gonna tell you but…

I strongly believe that the problems will be just starting with it. Feeling such a strong hatred towards all the people we’ve been in relationship with, no matter how serious they were is just the tip of the iceberg. I don’t tell you to stay away from such people, but just be more conscious about the reasons why all their relationships were complete disasters.
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You are the least common denominator of your friends

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If I were to do experimental psychology, I would try to design a personality test that defines you according to your relationship with your friends and what kind of people you tend to surround yourself with. Maybe I’ll do it someday.

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For now, however, I focus on psychoanalysis and this inspires me to analyze my own choice of friendships. It’s a unique combination of individuals who often do not have much to do with each other, even so every one of them has much to do with myself. So I divided my friends into several basic types: Continue reading →

What If I Never Fit In?

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My formal education to become a shrink lasted 14 years. There is a cliché that says “People study psychology so they can understand what is wrong with them.” While I have always seen myself as a moderately crazy and generally well-adjusted person, I always hated this claim.

Nevertheless, just recently I realized why I have been seeking more and more knowledge about the human mind in philosophy, psychology and psychoanalysis.

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Online Consultations? Who Can Benefit From Them?

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In our active everyday life, many of the services we use are very well represented on the internet. There are lots of online shops, lessons, meetings, clubs, dating, magazines, bookstores, games, etc.

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Our jobs as well as our private life are often powered by the internet connection on our smart phones.

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What Happens To Unloved Children and Why Is It So Damaging

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Needless to say, children should be loved and taken care of.

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Human being is helpless during infancy and the healthy development depends on healthy parenting. Nevertheless not every parent lives up to the social and evolutionary standard. One would argue that these things happen, whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger… etc., etc.

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