3 minute read
Let’s face the truth: there are no perfect people, and even if there were any, we would hate their guts. Do you feel irritated when someone constantly tries to seem perfect?
Perfectionism related to appearance, knowledge, abilities, etc. is often off-putting. Nevertheless, envy is not the reason why we find it alienating. Continue reading
3 min read
The popular saying implies that it is better to deal with someone or something familiar than to deal with what you do not know because it might be worse.
I understand that there’s always an element of risk when one tries new experiences, but to me, the saying sounds more like an invitation. An invitation to stay in the (in)famous comfort zone.
Continue reading
5 minute read
Have you ever wondered why faith is nicer to some people and constantly neglects others. Maybe even your personal plans sometimes fail and it makes you think that life isn’t fair. What’s really the problem with faith?
There is no problem!
4 minute read
Psychotherapists, counselors, doctors and lawyers are professionals who you should be able to trust most.
Their experience is crucial and you probably believe that they are like good wine – the older they get, the better.
2 minute read
In our active everyday life, many of the services we use are very well represented on the internet. There are lots of online shops, lessons, meetings, clubs, dating, magazines, bookstores, games, etc.
Our jobs as well as our private life are often powered by the internet connection on our smart phones.
2 minute read
Needless to say, children should be loved and taken care of.
Human being is helpless during infancy and the healthy development depends on healthy parenting. Nevertheless not every parent lives up to the social and evolutionary standard. One would argue that these things happen, whatever doesn’t kill you makes you stronger… etc., etc.
3 minute read
“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” ― wrote Leo Tolstoy and he was right. Happiness is boring!
If you are happily engaged in a relationship right now (especially if you are in this blissful situation for long time) you probably have already realized that happiness is very monotonous.
This article is really more about my personal opinion and much less about any of the psychological theories that I have been studying. After all, on the question monogamy or polygamy everyone decides for oneself. For instance I have been wondering all my life.
Let’s face it – life is not a fairy tale. Not everything happens according to the best case scenario. It is just impossible. There will be a lot of losses, disappointment and regret, the important thing is to go ahead somehow.
Today I heard a very passionate confession about love. In summary it said that if it is true, it always hurts. When it is mutual, it hurts because you just care so much about the other person, when it is not – it hurts like hell for obvious reasons. Everything that your partner do could be a source of pain no matter if it is intentional or not, longing for someone hurts, separation hurts, breaking up hurts a lot etc, etc. And the guy, who told it, truly believed that you should be crazy to do it this to yourself.
No, no, no! You’ve got it all wrong! If it hurts so much you aren’t making it right. Love and affection is not a continuous source of pain or at least it is not supposed to be. Even if you look at it from evolutionary perspective. There can’t be a feeling that we all feel but it is completely useless because it makes us vulnerable and weak all the time.