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If the first five worked just partially, and you still cry often for your ex. If your stomach still shrinks when you think about him/her and you think about purchasing a boxing bag with his/her face on it, you probably already know that your feelings haven’t disappeared. And yet, you broke up months ago and it is high time for you to move on.
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Low self-esteem is one of the primary causes of unhappy life. If you don’t like yourself you are doomed to conform with an unhealthy lifestyle, toxic relationships, bad communication with your relatives, etc.
The point is – no one ever benefits from low self-esteem, neither you nor the people you love. This is just an issue you should overcome and the simple changes towards believing that you are actually a better person will make a huge difference.
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The eternal question about finding and developing quality relationship is so important for our love life and even though I don’t see much of a progress in this field. In this article I will share my personal experience not because I am some kind of relationship master, but because after 15 years of dating and relationships I can say that I haven’t been severely hurt by anyone and I can still personally recommend to any girl dating most of my ex boyfriends. I still admire them and I believe that they are truly amazing smart people.
So I guess there is a reason why things have been going well for such a long time and I’d like to try to analyze what I have done well so everyone could take advantage of my experience.
“You will never meet a quality guy in a bar” – my mother used to say. And I always responded : “Well nice guys also go out, right!?” Continue reading
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Happiness is something that you DO… by yourself. It requires time, energy, self-consciousness. Nobody can just give it to you as a present. It is something you fight for each day. And of course, you can’t give it to another person either.
Unconditional love is the maximum you can give to another person, while support, compassion and understanding is the absolute minimum, you owe to the people you love, but you are not able to bring happiness to anyone who is unable to achieve it. Continue reading
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“There are not any decent men left” – said a friend of mine after many unfortunate attempts to find one.
“You know what? At the age of 30 and above all the guys who are still single have a part missing” – said another friend (guy 35 and single).
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As a therapist, I would never advise my clients to break up with someone or to do anything possible (and impossible) to make the relationship work. It is up to you to decide if a relationship has a future or not, but it is hard. One of my greatest achievements is helping a client establish better communication with his girlfriend. He wanted to fight for a relationship that I personally would never tolerate. It was important for him and now he is happy with her, even though a year ago she used to make his life miserable.
Figuring out what you want exactly is a hard task and it takes years to be achieved, but once you know yourself better you will be able to sort out the relationships that you can keep and the ones that you shouldn’t.
Have you ever experienced a much higher sexual arousal when you have been away from your partner for a while? Of course you have. The reencounter after some time spent apart is one of the greatest and also most common turn-ons.
It is the desire for reconnection, for discovering the other and the feeling that somehow you are about to conquer your long term partner, no matter that for a long time you have considered her/ him “yours”.
Today I heard a very passionate confession about love. In summary it said that if it is true, it always hurts. When it is mutual, it hurts because you just care so much about the other person, when it is not – it hurts like hell for obvious reasons. Everything that your partner do could be a source of pain no matter if it is intentional or not, longing for someone hurts, separation hurts, breaking up hurts a lot etc, etc. And the guy, who told it, truly believed that you should be crazy to do it this to yourself.
No, no, no! You’ve got it all wrong! If it hurts so much you aren’t making it right. Love and affection is not a continuous source of pain or at least it is not supposed to be. Even if you look at it from evolutionary perspective. There can’t be a feeling that we all feel but it is completely useless because it makes us vulnerable and weak all the time.
Recently I have been discussing this topic with many of my friends and some of my clients and, honestly, I don’t have a definite opinion about it. Maybe it will be disappointing for you, but I really can’t give general advice on infidelity, since the reasons for it are so broad. Each case is so unique, unique like the personalities of the people who are involved in it. Nevertheless, I’d like to share some thoughts about this unpleasant experience.
First of all I wonder if there are still people who believe in everlasting love. Call me a cynic but I am convinced that it is just a childish illusion. On the other hand cheating could be very hurtful for your partner and totally unnecessary if you are in a healthy relationship.
Is cheating a big deal or just an insignificant obstacle for the good relationship?
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Overcoming a tough breakup is not easy but everyone has gone through it at least once and let’s say it – no one ever died of broken heart. Each breakup is unique, so is the relationship preceding it, but there are some Do’s and Don’ts which, I believe, are essential to make it pass. Maybe following this rules the gloomy feelings won’t pass easier, but I can guarantee that they’ll pass a little faster and more importantly – the matter will be definitely settled.
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