Love Is Something That You DO!

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It is difficult to find a soul mate, isn’t it?

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Especially if you live under the impression that there is a person (someone somewhere) who is just perfect for you. Or maybe you have the illusion that even if he/she is not exactly perfect you will love her/him so strongly all the time, that it will not mater.

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Why Self-Help Literature Almost Never Works?

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Maybe it is quite strange to read an article like this in the web page of someone who actually writes self-help articles. And maybe I am the one who should explain it to you…

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This “suicidal article” reflects my thoughts on one of the books by Jorge Bukay, which I read and forgot it all just within 2 weeks. Continue reading →

About “True” Friendship

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If we were to believe all the internet “wisdom” that circulates around the social media, we would think that “we should spare time for the people who love us unconditionally, and not the ones who are interested in us when the conditions are right”, also “not to feel sorry for lost friend because if a friend betrayed us this friendship never existed”, and so on and so forth.


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Happiness Is Boring

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All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” ―  wrote Leo Tolstoy and he was right. Happiness is boring!


If you are happily engaged in a relationship right now (especially if you are in this blissful situation for long time) you probably have already realized that happiness is very monotonous.

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What Is The Main Purpose Of Parenthood?

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Nobody knows instantly how to be a parent. Experiments start from the very moment when someone makes the decision to have a child and continue all life. Sometimes though, overwhelmed parents forget the main purpose of parenthood and this is not favorable for their children.

padre3This is a small but significant thing to remember while you are raising kids – parent’s most important function is to create a functional individual out of his/her indefensive child.

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There Is Something That Your Therapist Doesn’t Tell You

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Seeing a therapist is a huge step to a better mental health. Even though it isn’t cheap, it is an important investment in your current and future wellbeing.


Therapy is a step towards achieving goals that can’t be evaluated financially like happiness, good relationship with one’s family, life without anxiety, etc. And aren’t those the things we long for most.

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To Call or Not to Call … My Ex

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Every breakup takes both of the partners. Afterwards each one of them can figure out for him/herself how much he/she has been hurt and why, so it is up to you to decide if you can call your ex or not. You are the person who knows you better than anyone else and you are the one who can evaluate if the problems that you couldn’t overcome the first time around are real deal breakers or not.

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My observations in such situations made me believe a few things though.

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The Most Damaging Myth about Mental Illness (And How To Fight Against It)

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Mental illness and other psychological disorders have always been controversial. One of the main reasons this topic can be so polemic is all the myths surrounding it. There are many wrong beliefs about mental illness and psychological disorders, but right now, I’d like to focus on one that’s very damaging and sheds a light on the long road we’ve still got to travel when it comes to mental health.


There’s many ways to express this damaging belief, but it boils down to something like this:

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5 Myths About Smart Women

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First, I would like to explain that there is not an exact definition on who is smart. There are different types of intelligence and if we lack skills in one field we compensate them with abilities in other.

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In my opinion, a smart woman is the one who can take responsibility for her actions, who can prioritize her tasks and goals and maintains healthy levels of self-criticism. The smart woman is educated and informed on diverse topics, she can communicate effectively with people from different backgrounds and cultures, she can put herself in the other person’s place; therefore she is able to accept or disprove the opinions of the others.

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