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You are the least common denominator of your friends

by mila.petkova

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If I were to do experimental psychology, I would try to design a personality test that defines you according to your relationship with your friends and what kind of people you tend to surround yourself with. Maybe I’ll do it someday.

For now, however, I focus on psychoanalysis and this inspires me to analyze my own choice of friendships. It’s a unique combination of individuals who often do not have much to do with each other, even so every one of them has much to do with myself. So I divided my friends into several basic types: Continue reading →

What If I Never Fit In?

by mila.petkova

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My formal education to become a shrink lasted 14 years. There is a cliché that says “People study psychology so they can understand what is wrong with them.” While I have always seen myself as a moderately crazy and generally well-adjusted person, I always hated this claim.

Nevertheless, just recently I realized why I have been seeking more and more knowledge about the human mind in philosophy, psychology and psychoanalysis.

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About “True” Friendship

by mila.petkova

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If we were to believe all the internet “wisdom” that circulates around the social media, we would think that “we should spare time for the people who love us unconditionally, and not the ones who are interested in us when the conditions are right”, also “not to feel sorry for lost friend because if a friend betrayed us this friendship never existed”, and so on and so forth.

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5 Myths About Smart Women

by mila.petkova

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First, I would like to explain that there is not an exact definition on who is smart. There are different types of intelligence and if we lack skills in one field we compensate them with abilities in other.

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In my opinion, a smart woman is the one who can take responsibility for her actions, who can prioritize her tasks and goals and maintains healthy levels of self-criticism. The smart woman is educated and informed on diverse topics, she can communicate effectively with people from different backgrounds and cultures, she can put herself in the other person’s place; therefore she is able to accept or disprove the opinions of the others.

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Do You Like Yourself Enough?

by mila.petkova

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Low self-esteem is one of the primary causes of unhappy life. If you don’t like yourself you are doomed to conform with an unhealthy lifestyle, toxic relationships, bad communication with your relatives, etc.

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The point is – no one ever benefits from low self-esteem, neither you nor the people you love. This is just an issue you should overcome and the simple changes towards believing that you are actually a better person will make a huge difference.

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The Immanent Functions of The Non-Existing Self

by mila.petkova

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Does the self exist? This is a hard question. From our everyday perspective the self is what gives us some sense of consistency, but if we look deeply into the question about the self, the psychological and philosophical topics related to the nature of the self, then maybe it is not too strange to claim that the self might be nothing more than a set of memories, perceptions and emotions.

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This is not a new approach to the self. Western philosophy often reject its existence.

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