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The era of instant gratification brought us a new plague – the illusion that one can make choices without experiencing life.
Listening to the people who come to my practice, I realize that there is a great fear of time-wasting. Continue reading
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My male friends and counseling clients often ask me what women want during sex. Well, telling just one thing is like claiming that there is one sexual position that is simply the best. It’s not that simple!
But then again, some men are just better lovers. What makes them good? Well, here are a few points that could shine light on this topic:
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We live in the age of instant gratification. Commodities are purchased and delivered within hours with money we haven’t earned yet. This might be fine for the free market, but is it just as good for mental health?
Dating apps and websites sound like a good idea, as people get more social. They are able to meet their potential significant other or experience an exciting hookup outside of their everyday circles. But I think something went terribly wrong.
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In an interview, the French psychoanalyst philosopher Jacques-Alain Miller was reminded of Jacques Lacan’s frequently quoted phrase: “Love is always reciprocal”.
What does that mean? asks the interviewer… Continue reading
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Yesterday I read an article about the exciting thrill of not knowing what your man is thinking and how sexy it is to be with a strong, virile macho.
The author claimed that it was actually pleasant to be with a person who you never get to know completely and you can always expect some surprises out of your relationship with him (bad surprises, if you ask me).
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It is difficult to find a soul mate, isn’t it?
Especially if you live under the impression that there is a person (someone somewhere) who is just perfect for you. Or maybe you have the illusion that even if he/she is not exactly perfect you will love her/him so strongly all the time, that it will not mater.
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“All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.” ― wrote Leo Tolstoy and he was right. Happiness is boring!
If you are happily engaged in a relationship right now (especially if you are in this blissful situation for long time) you probably have already realized that happiness is very monotonous.
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As a therapist, I would never advise my clients to break up with someone or to do anything possible (and impossible) to make the relationship work. It is up to you to decide if a relationship has a future or not, but it is hard. One of my greatest achievements is helping a client establish better communication with his girlfriend. He wanted to fight for a relationship that I personally would never tolerate. It was important for him and now he is happy with her, even though a year ago she used to make his life miserable.
Figuring out what you want exactly is a hard task and it takes years to be achieved, but once you know yourself better you will be able to sort out the relationships that you can keep and the ones that you shouldn’t.
Have you ever experienced a much higher sexual arousal when you have been away from your partner for a while? Of course you have. The reencounter after some time spent apart is one of the greatest and also most common turn-ons.
It is the desire for reconnection, for discovering the other and the feeling that somehow you are about to conquer your long term partner, no matter that for a long time you have considered her/ him “yours”.
This article is really more about my personal opinion and much less about any of the psychological theories that I have been studying. After all, on the question monogamy or polygamy everyone decides for oneself. For instance I have been wondering all my life.
Let’s face it – life is not a fairy tale. Not everything happens according to the best case scenario. It is just impossible. There will be a lot of losses, disappointment and regret, the important thing is to go ahead somehow.