Do Good Guys/Girls Exist? And If They Do, Where Can We Meet Them?

by mila.petkova

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The eternal question about finding and developing quality relationship is so important for our love life and even though I don’t see much of a progress in this field. In this article I will share my personal experience not because I am some kind of relationship master, but because after 15 years of dating and relationships I can say that I haven’t been severely hurt by anyone and I can still personally recommend to any girl dating most of my ex boyfriends. I still admire them and I believe that they are truly amazing smart people.

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So I guess there is a reason why things have been going well for such a long time and I’d like to try to analyze what I have done well so everyone could take advantage of my experience.

“You will never meet a quality guy in a bar” – my mother used to say. And I always responded : “Well nice guys also go out, right!?” Continue reading →

You Are Not Responsible For Anyone Else’s Happiness – Nobody Is

by mila.petkova

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Happiness is something that you DO… by yourself. It requires time, energy, self-consciousness. Nobody can just give it to you as a present. It is something you fight for each day. And of course, you can’t give it to another person either.

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Unconditional love is the maximum you can give to another person, while support, compassion and understanding is the absolute minimum, you owe to the people you love, but you are not able to bring happiness to anyone who is unable to achieve it. Continue reading →

3 Signs That You Are A Victim Of Manipulative Behavior

by mila.petkova

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Manipulative partners in life, spouses, lovers, friends, relatives… they are all the same. Well, OK, no they aren’t. People are unique and they behave in shitty ways for a bunch of unique reasons.

manipulative bahaviorNevertheless, you will always feel the same way as a result of their manipulations – BAD (Bewildered, Alienated, Doubtful). What are your emotions and experiences that show you that you are manipulated by someone you love? Continue reading →

You Are Not What You Wear – You Are Much More And You Know It!

by mila.petkova

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In my article Why “Dress For The Job You Want” Is Actually a Damn Good Advice I emphasized on the importance of the clothing when you try to blend in a community or especially in a job profile. Even though cloths matter, my advice to you was to be yourself no matter what. But how can you do both? How can you change your style radically and feel comfortable with it?

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Sometimes it is tough because it is not in everyone’s nature to experiment with clothes. People who dress the same way for years often receive a great sense of personality when they put their favorite clothes on. If they really have to change it, they usually feel awkward and false.

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Why “Dress For The Job You Want” Is Actually a Damn Good Advice

by mila.petkova

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Getting a job is like finding a new boyfriend. You have to be emotionally prepared to find the right one; you should know what you want; you shouldn’t seem desperate and you should be really careful what you wear in order to attract the ones who are suitable for you.

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You are already aware that while it may be fine to go to a job interview for a waitress wearing a short skirt, it is extremely unprofessional to be dressed the same way on an interview for a lawyer. When you get invited to a job interview try to figure out what is the unofficial dress code in the company. It is essential to be visually recognized as one of the team before you even have the chance to say “hello”. Continue reading →

Being In a Committed Relationship Is Not That Simple

by mila.petkova

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You will often hear me say that if there is compatibility and chemistry between two people, things between them just click easily – without games, without unnecessary drama, without desperate attempts to attract someone’s attention. If you have to put a lot of efforts in order to trick the other into being in a relationship with you, this relationship is just not worth it.

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The moment when you meet someone with similar interests and values, who is attracted to you, things between you will gust happen.

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Dysfunctional Relationship? – Can I/Should I Make It Work?

by mila.petkova

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As a therapist, I would never advise my clients to break up with someone or to do anything possible (and impossible) to make the relationship work. It is up to you to decide if a relationship has a future or not, but it is hard. One of my greatest achievements is helping a client establish better communication with his girlfriend. He wanted to fight for a relationship that I personally would never tolerate. It was important for him and now he is happy with her, even though a year ago she used to make his life miserable.

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Figuring out what you want exactly is a hard task and it takes years to be achieved, but once you know yourself better you will be able to sort out the relationships that you can keep and the ones that you shouldn’t.

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